Are you in a committed relationship? Do you compare your relationship to an "old married couple" before saying the I Do's? Ever have a growing curiosity towards the single life? If you've been with your partner long enough, these questions have probably come up at least once... if not more. AND THAT'S OK! It's normal to be curious and question - especially in a long term relationship. If you value fidelity and commitment (like me), it's important to get creative in a committed relationship.
It's important to find ways to nurture the intimacy between you and your partner - intimacy that goes beyond sex and attraction. It's important to learn how to give without the expectation of something in return. I know... easier said than done, but it's possible. With mutual effort and communication, this art of giving can spice up your committed relationship. First starting with the small and casual then working your way up.
HERE ARE 3 TIPS TO SPICE UP YOUR COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP:
1. Make time to talk about each other's day... in a Kama Sutra position (long story short, the kamasutra is a manual of sex positions). With that being said, you can do this with clothes on where you or your partner (traditionally the female, but this will depend on the nature of your relationship) on top - chest touching, so there's a heart-to-heart connection. This will give you a great opportunity to practice eye gazing and have uninterrupted attention for your partner!
2. Spend some time together... in the shower. Listen to a favorite song together while scrubbing each other's backs. Ask your partner how it feels when you scrub their back with a loofah. Does your partner want more and less pressure? Does the back scrubbing feel better when you pick up or slow down the pace? Ask questions, so you can practice the dialogue of learning how to make experiences optimally pleasurable for your partner. This skill will come in handy for more intimate experiences! Take time to scrub every inch of your partner's body - noticing the curvature of each other's body shape.
3. Next time you're hugging or cuddling, do some cycle breathing together. The most convenient time would probably be at night, before bed. When your partner inhales, you exhale. When you inhale, your partner exhales. With each inhale, allow the belly to expand. With each exhale, allow the shoulders to soften. Try to have a heart-to-heart connection either with chests touching or chest touching the back. Timing is important, so try a few practice rounds to find an effortless pace and practice for a couple minutes together.
Notice how time is mentioned in each tip. It takes time to build intimacy. It takes patience to learn how to give without expectations. It's a continuous process... of learning how to grow together rather than growing apart.
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Confessions of a Light Worker